Outfit for Friday 1/31/14

Top - Guess

Skirt - American Apparel

Belt - Target

Shoes - Tahari

Okay, you got me, I didn't actually wear these shoes out of the house with this outfit, I just put them on for the picture.  But aren't they the cutest?  Well maybe you can't tell form the photo; here is another:

I got these one day from DSW.  They were hiding back in the clearance section and I picked them up for about $10!  What a steal.  Seriously if you have not check it out, then you need to!  Well if you can that is; I don't know what sizes they carry, but I know they don't carry larger ones.

On the day that I wore the above outfit I actually had on flip flops as Jules and I went and got our nails done:

I got a mani and a pedi and thus I needed the appropriate shoes for that.  I wonder how many of you know how it feels to be able to sit next to your wife while getting pampered in a salon.  Heavenly.  If you are not wanting to do it while dressed as a girl then go as a guy, well worth it!

Hope you all are well!

Me?  I have been super busy as of late.  Multiple projects stretching me in multiple directions.  But isn't that the life of someone living life in the middle?  Isn't that another bloggers tagline? Hmm...

Love ya!

Outfit for Friday 1/24/14

Sweater - Anne Taylor

Jeans - Guess

Shoes - Madden Girl

Belt - Borrowed from Jules

I like the simplicity of this outfit.  A nice long sweater, with a belt to help accentuate my waist, a cute pair of jeans, and comfy heels.  Wondrous.  I still so can not understand why so many cross dressers don't like jeans.  Like somehow, even though I am dressed as a girl, from head to toe, with a wig, makeup, and everything, it is not quite girly enough if I don't have on a skirt or a dress?  Hmm... Interesting.

Recently as a matter of fact I have begun to ponder if I am simply your average ordinary cross dresser or if I might be considered something else.  But then that puts us back into the label discussion.  I am not a soup can!  Ha!  But it might be nice to have some accepted category to exist in that the entire world might understand.  Ah... what a dream.

When I went out on this day Jules and I got our nails done.   I thought I would tone down my colors this time as I had some presentations to do at work where I would be speaking in front of some large crowds about some potentially inflaming info, so I thought maybe black would be best, but then I just had to have some sort of sparkle to thrill me.

I did not mention something funny that happened the last time I wore out these same shoes.  Jules and I went to the movies.  While standing in line, a young girl standing behind Jules and I asked her mother "Mommy, why are that girls feet so small."  I didn't pay much attention to it, but Jules did, and let me know it was me she was referencing.  Pretty cool huh?  Yay, I have small feet?  Well at least the illusion of it in these super cute shoes! Yippy!

Love ya!

:)

Excuse Me Brain, Who Are You Buying Shoes For?

A few months ago I had an opportunity to stop at a Famous Footwear store for some new guy shoes.  The nearest place to buy shoes that I like is about an hour away from my house and I happened to be in that area for business so I took advantage of the situation and thought I would kill to birds with one stone.  I went in, tried on some shoes, thought they fit okay, purchased them, and then went home.

I was all happy with myself, until I looked at the side of the box, and realized I bought the wrong size.  In male shoes I should be wearing an 8 to an 8.5 wide or extra wide.  I have two different sized feet if you must know.  One is a half size smaller than the other.  But even an 8.5 feels too snug, so I buy a 9 wide.  But on this particular occasion I bought two pairs of male tennis shoes in a 9.5 wide.  

Why a 9.5?  Well that happens to be the size I wear in female shoes.  Wacky.  When I first started to buy my own female shoes I thought it was about a 2 size difference between male and female, so I started by trying on 11s.  Way too big.  I went down from there and settled on 10s.  Much better.  But after a bit most of my heels would stretch out and my heel would lift out of the shoes, especially while in stockings.  So eventually I switched to 9.5s.  

Thus even though I was dressed as a guy, when I went to the shoe store on that particular day I bought 9.5s instead of 9s.  Silly me.  I had already worn one pair outside and thus could not return them.  I did return one pair and got the right size.

Okay, no biggie mistakes happen.  But...

The last time I went shopping for any clothes I happened to be dressed in female attire and I found a New Balance store, my fave place for tennis shoes.  I went in with the express purpose of buying the correct size male tennis shoes to replace my 9.5s.  I went in, tried on many pairs, found one I like, and bought it.  

Jules and I were about 3 hours from home and on a mini vacay at the time.  We visited a few places and then eventually went back home.  After I had unloaded everything from the car it occurred to me that maybe I had done something wrong.  I found the shoe box, and holy crap!  I bought the wrong size shoe again!  I again bought 9.5s!  

I think I am loosing my mind.

Life would be so much easier if we had human sized clothes and shoes and not different ones for males and females.  Hello manufacturers, are you listening?  Could you please simplify my life for me?

No?  Oh well, it was worth a little shout out attempt.

Love ya!

Outfit for 1/13/14 - The Illusion of Curves

Sweater - Roxy

Belt - Target

Skirt - American Apparel

Shoes - Fitzwell

Necklace - Target

This skirt is a little wisp of nothing.  It is a small swatch of fabric but wow, it is super cool!  Again, it is another American Apparel item, not my favorite store, but this skirt works great!  What is so awesome about it you ask?  Well first off it is tight, like hold your knees together tight.  Second, it is stretchy.  It is a medium, but easily stretches out to be super comfy while wearing.  Third, it is long.  What this all adds up to is a very versatile garment.  I can wear it higher or lower.  It can work from mid thigh to mid calf.  And it helps to make me look super curvy by pulling my knees together. And as well as making me look curvy by pulling my knees together that also makes me walk more femininely, which is an added bonus.

The sweater I am wearing is another that I bought to try with leggings.  I think it looks good, but it is too tight to accomplish what I need it to with leggings.  Leggings are really tight and they don't really leave much to the imagination.  I need a loose sweater with leggings, not a tight one.  This one is too tight for that, but for a skirt, or jeans, it works quite well.  It is also one of those super soft sweaters and so Jules and I found ourselves petting me throughout the day.  It was funny.

But being as the sweater is super long, it does not give much shape. What is the point of wearing a skirt that gives me shape only to have the sweater make me look like a blob?  Thus the belt on top of the skirt.  That helps to define my waist line.  Actually it is much higher than my normal waist line, but it is at the skinniest point of my torso.  Thus is helps to give the illusion of curvy.  Which is awesome!

Okay, gotta run.  Love you!

:)

Outfit for 1/5/2014 - Leggings :)

 

Sweater - DKNY

Leggings - American Apparel

Boots - Madden Girl

On Pinterest I have been seeing lots of versions of this type of an outfit, leggings with an oversize sweater, and I have thought that it would look really cute.  The last time Jules and I got to do some shopping I was determined to figure out something that would work for me.  This is obviously what I came up with, but it wasn't exactly planned to go together.

I thought that buying the leggings would be pretty simple and I would have many of them to choose from.  I was wrong.  I looked at just about every store we went to and I really did not find much at all.  After we were almost done and had yet to find anything I knew that I would have to try American Apparel.  Have to, as I tend to stay out of that store, as I find many of the clothes to be lacking in a bit of sophistication.  But I was aware that to often have good leggings.  I will tell you, the store surprised me by having a few things that I thought were pretty cute, including these leggings.  I liked them so much, I also bought a pair with the same print, just in red.  I am sure you will see them eventually.

While on this shopping trip, I also thought it would be quite simple to find lots of oversize sweaters.  But I was wrong again.  It took me many tries, at many places to find anything that would even come close to working.  I mean, to wear leggings, it would have to be a sweater with the right sort of coverage.  Anyways, I bought several sweaters that I thought would work, but this DKNY sweater was not one of them.

This sweater was sold to me by a very enthusiastic sales lady at the DKNY outlet store.  I purchased a few items that day and she talked up this sweater so much, I had to have it.  It is actually was DKNY calls a cozy.  It is a sweater that can be worn in a variety of methods.  Which is super cool.  If you have never experienced a DKNY cozy before, I would highly recommend you try it out.  As with the leggings, I am sure you will see more pictures of it over time.

The day I wore this, I started off with the shoes.  Which are new from X-mas, and super cute!  I knew I wanted to wear those, and try and feature them somehow.  Next came the leggings and lastly the sweater.  I put on sweater after sweater, that I already own, and none worked.  Jules suggested the cozy with a belt and I tried it and liked it more than anything else I had tried.  I still think that a loose, oversize sweater would look better, but I still do like the outfit, even though it looks a bit like Obi Wan.  Oh well!

The funniest thing about this outfit is how I felt.  I felt as though I was wearing nothing on my legs.  The leggings are obviously tight, super tight, and the are also very light, so it felt almost like wearing nothing.  It was kind of disconcerting at times, but also quite funny.

Hope you all are well!

Love Ya!

:)

Happy New Year!

Outfit for 12/24/13 - Wine Tasting Again!

Coat - Guess

Blouse - Wrapper

Skirt - Guess

Shoes - Nine West

With this outfit I am wearing several of my favorite items.  Of course there is my new red coat, which I just adore.  The pictures really do not do it justice.  It is just so super cute!  There is also my trusty Guess jean skirt, my asymmetrical Wrapper blouse, and lastly my awesome blue pumps!

I think some part of me chose this outfit to be comfy, and relaxed because on this day Jules and I were going wine tasting.  In the past I have been concerned about me being out dressed as a girl, but on this day I was really just concerned with Jules and her well being.  As most of you know she broke her leg, rather severely on Sept 1st.  A couple of weeks ago I asked her if she was up for a shopping trip and she said yes.  I was super excited and we booked a couple of nights out near one of our favorite malls.

I was so impressed with her and her ability to get around (she is still on crutches.)  But while we were out in public, I was so stressed about her safety.  She handled herself just fine and was totally capable but I was still very worried if everything would be okay.  We shopped for a couple of days and everything went fine.  Jules was quite tired, but good.

On our day home, we decided to visit a couple of our favorite wineries.  Now that I look at my outfit and see what I chose to wear and I realize, I was a little stressed.  The two of us had a great day and again everything went fine.

I hope everyone has a wonderful holiday.

Love you!

Cross Dressers as Liars

What is it about cross dressing that makes so many of us complacent with deceiving others?  I thought about this, and about writing this post, and just bashing those that deceive but then I thought about myself.  And I am pondering if just by being me, am I actively trying to deceive those around me?  Am I girl, nope, but occasionally I dress as one, and pass myself off as one.  Isn't that deceit?  Yes it is.  I will grant you that.

But I suppose it is a deceit of omission.  I don't tell people that I am a girl.  If anyone were to ask, which has never been done, I would certainly tell anyone that I am a man dressed as a girl.  The way I look at it is, the people that I deceive are the general public, and the general public does not have a need to know about my personal life.

Who does?  My wife.  And my wife has always been privy to my personal private thoughts.  I made a commitment to her when we got married, and part of that is being honest with her, with trusting her, with having her be a part of my life.  And I feel very strongly about this.  I have a very difficult time reading about how so many of you have been CDing for years and have never told your SO.  Honestly it is quite shocking to me.  But even more so than that, is the large numbers of you that not only accept their deceit, you actively encourage it.  I have read more than one post that says "if you want to keep your wife, don't tell her."  Shocking!  How significant is your other if you are unwilling to be honest with them?

Along the same lines are those of you who "borrow" your wife's clothes or your sister's clothes, or your mom's clothes.  These things are just wrong.  Wrong, wrong, wrong.

I think this all stems from fear of rejection.  We are afraid that others will not understand us and thus we hide who we are and then we justify it by saying, well it is for their own good.  Or it is for the good of the family.  Or some other such nonsense.  Listen, it is not important that you out yourself to the entire world.  The entire world does not need to know your private personal business.  But when you are married, or are planning on getting married, your private personal business becomes you and spouses private personal business.  There is no more me and them, it is you two together.  And together means more than just simply sharing the same space.

If you choose to exclude your spouse you are making a grave mistake.  You think that they will not accept you because of your aberrant behavior, so you allow yourself to do something that no one should accept in a spouse.  You deceive them.  If someone were to tell me that they are leaving their spouse because they can not trust them, I would support that decision fully.

Don't do something that is morally reprehensible because you can't just stand up to your own fears and find out if you spouse has concerns about cross dressing.

Okay, I know, a bit of a rant, but dammit, I feel very strongly about truth and honesty and openness within relationships and about facing your own fears.  By not facing your fear, you are honestly dooming your relationship with deceit.

Okay, rant over.

Love Ya.

Be honest!

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