Outfit for 9/30/13 & Yay New Shoes!

Top - Anne Taylor

Skirt - Guess

Shoes - Nine West

Today I took the opportunity to go out.  I have been working quite diligently in taking of my wife but I decided that I needed a bit of relief and need to take care of myself as well.  I will be no good to my wife at all if I don't actually take care of myself too.  So... a bit of shopping therapy for me!

My first objective today was to go get my brows threaded.  Wow after only about a month of neglect they sure became quite bushy!  I have been to the location in the mall several times but was quite nervous about going solo to get them done.  But they had to get bush whacked.

This time I decided to not wear any eye makeup beforehand.  If you have never had your brows threaded before, they will have you assist them by holding down your upper eyelid and then stretching your brows a bit with a hand above them.  Often after this process I end up smearing my makeup all over the place.  But this time, with no makeup on, it was no problem at all and I got great results.

After my brows, I headed to TJMaxx.  I have become determined to search the blouse section at every opportunity being as it is quite difficult to obtain good tops, that fit my criteria.  I found nothing, but I did find the great pair of blue suede pumps pictured above.  They are pointy toed, but a small point, so they do a good job at making my feet look smaller.

After a bit of shopping therapy I felt relaxed enough to brave Costco.  Again in the line, the cashier began to question the card I gave her, as it is a picture of my male self.  Before she had time to react, I said to her "yes that is actually my card."  She looked at the card and at me, and said, "this is you?"  To which I smiled, and said "Yup, that is me."  She shrugged her shoulders and rang my stuff up.  Very pleasant!

Updates:
-  Jules is still recovering.  This will be a longggggggg process folks.  I am attempting to hang in there, but boy howdy is it ever stressful!  I had no idea.  We are about a month into it, 4 weeks actually, and we have really only just begun.  We are hanging in there, but the tedium of it all is beginning to grind on both her and I, for just about completely opposite reasons.  She just wants to get up and do stuff, and I just want to be able to sit down and stop doing stuff.  Though it is quite weird.  I find myself doing things I have not done before and actually filling my time with extra things I don't need to do; like organizing all sorts of things.  I think that has to do with me trying to find some sort of order in life that I can't find in things with relation to assisting Jules.  Hmm.... Interesting.

Gotta run. Love Ya!

5 Tips for Being Out and About

1 - Head Up, Shoulders Back, and Boobs Out
Taller people tend to slouch.  And girls that are shy about their boobs tend to slump their shoulders.  But these two habits tend to make one look bad.  When you do not hold your head up high, it makes your neck look larger.  I don't know about your necks but my neck is large enough.  I frequently am quite guilty of this nasty little habit and am constantly reminding myself to keep my head up.  I am proud and keeping my head up shows it as well as makes my neck look smaller, woo-hoo!

Part of dressing as a girl is to wear boobs, but funny enough I am often shy about having them.  I think it is funny as when I first started going out and about I was super shy about my boobs, maybe just like some younger girls.  Be proud of your breasts and put those shoulders back.  It makes your boobs look nicer, but also it helps your shoulders to look smaller.

I think these three things need work because many of us feel too big and we try and make ourselves look smaller, but by doing this we actually make ourselves look bigger.  So stand up tall, put your head up, your shoulders back, and stick your boobs out.

2 - Exude Confidence
This is super hard, but super important.  If you act act insecure then people will sense that and they will treat you differently.  Many people that you meet will feed off of your emotions.  If you act off a bit because you are embarrassed about how you are dressed, then people will tend to treat you off a bit.  You may then interpret that as the people have a problem with you because you are a guy dressed as a woman.  When I am at my utmost in confidence many people won't accept that I actually am a guy.

3 - Dress for the Situation
I like wearing whatever I want to wear, but wearing a fancy dress and super high heels is not always practical.  I will go out for several days at a time with nothing but girl clothes in tow.  I get up just about every morning and go on a walk.  That is a prime example of wearing tennis shoes and sweats as being far more appropriate than just about any dress I own.

I love all of my fancy clothes but I also am practical.  I like to try and be a bit stylish, even with my non-dressy clothes.  I like wearing dresses, but also skirts, and pants, and shorts, and sweats and all of the fun clothes that I bought from the female side of the store.

4 - Look but Don't Be Seen
When I am out I don't like looking at people but I also don't like not looking.  Not looking could be tricky, if I might encounter someone that I know, so I like to be aware of who is around me.  But I really don't like looking at people directly in the eye, unless I am dealing with them directly.  If I am talking with someone I look directly at them, as that is confident.  But if I am just walking around Target, I am not interested in looking at others directly as it makes me paranoid.  And it also makes it so I look less feminine.  Girls do not generally look random people in the eye, but they will look at you when you don't know it. That is what I generally do as well and it leaves me with good feelings.  Not sure why, but it does.

5 - Be Polite
I always try and be super nice and polite when I am dealing with the general public.  I have had to talk with a few managers regarding employee poor conduct, but I have always been polite to these folks.  I really try actually to be extra kind to everyone that I meet.  It makes for a much more pleasant experience with the public when you are the first one to put yourself out there and be nice.

Updates
- Jules is home.  She is doing better then we thought she would be at this point, but it will be a long road of recovery.  We both appreciate everyone's well wishes.  She will get better, one day at a time.  I consider us to have been quite lucky as it could have been much worse.
- She is my main concern at this point, dressing and blogging, are coming in way at the end at this point.  I will continue to dress when I can and write when I can, but so far with my work load tripling or quadrupling we shall see when that occurs.

Hope you all are well.
Love Ya!

Can I Get Some Worldwide Support For My Wife?

Jules and I and a few friends went out for a dove hunt last night at a friend's ranch. We are all standing around, the birds begin to fly, and Jules downs one that sails over into this small ravine. She goes over and attempts to find it. She is standing on the top of a rock pile, determining how she is going to negotiate her way down when out from the rock crevices a rattler strikes out at her. She jumps back, obviously startled, loses her footing, and tumbles off the edge. She fell head first, face down, about 3-4 feet down, and smashed her tibia on a boulder. This caused her to rotate about 180 degrees and falls another 3-4 feet and lands on her back wedged between a boulder and a fallen tree with her gun underneath her and a shooting pain in her leg. 

She calls out for help. I can barely hear her as the birds are now flying hard and heavy. I attempt to go find her and find out why she is calling. I eventually locate her down in the ravine. We get her positioned and work together to get her out. We make it up the hill, I go get the car and alert our other hunting partners. A firefighter in training comes and assists me with getting her into the car. We drive back over to our parking spot and she thinks she is not that bad and tells me to finish the hunt. It is about 7 in the evening and we have about a half hour left.

We keep shooting, her watching from the car, until we are out of time. I get in and drive her to the emergency room. Four hours later, they are giving her morphine and admitting her to the hospital. Here is how bad ass my wife is:

Yeah, so after seeing that, I felt like an f'in a-hole for even considering to continue to shoot, let alone actually doing so.  I realize now, she was in shock.  Adrenaline was coursing through her veins and neither she nor I had any idea at all what a life threatening situation she had just been in.  First of all, the snake could have bitten her and secondly, she could have fallen on her head instead of her leg, thirdly, she could have died from the pure shock of the trauma.

She is lucky to be alive today folks.  She had surgery this morning at 9 and it went as well as could be expected.  She now has a metal plate running the length of her shin and about 8 screws in her tibia holding it all together.

I know this is not my usual fair for this blog, but I thought I would reach out for some worldwide support for my tremendous wife.

Tips For Waxing

Picture courtesy of: http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Chest_waxing_cropped.jpg

The first time I waxed my body hair I had high hopes.  Hopes for a completely hair free body.  But that has always been my hope, with whatever hair removal tactic I have tried.  And so far I have tried, shaving, depilatory lotions, waxing, and an epilator.

Nothing has done a perfect job, and nothing has been easy or quick to do.  But surprisingly, to me, I have stuck with waxing much longer than I originally thought I would have.  Over the years I have learned a thing or two about it.  I am by no means an expert, but I have a few things to share.

1 - Waxing will not remove every single hair leaving you super smooth and silky.  This is due to a couple of reasons.  One, not all of your hair will be long enough for the wax to grab, hair does grow at different times and thus is different lengths.  Two, many of the hairs will break and not be fully plucked from the follicle.  Three, some hairs are more resilient than others and will resist plucking.

2 - Do it yourself.  While I have never gone to a professional, I can not stomach the thought of paying the fees associated with going to someone.  Also I am concerned with the hygiene of such locations.  Jules went and had a certain area waxed and the results were less than to be desired.  I performed a much better job for her the next time she was willing to give it a go.

3 - Use a professional or semi professional waxing pot.  I use the Gigi waxing pot as well as Dark Honey Wax.  The Dark Honee Wax has worked best for me and does not irritate my skin as some other types have.  I have also tried microwave heated wax, which does not work well at all.  I have also tried prewaxed strips and they do not work well at all either.

4 - Do not give up.  The first time I did it, my chest hair follicles bled.  Oh and it hurt so bad, I should have taken some prescription pain meds first.  The second time, it bled less.  Now, about 20-30 times later, it does not bleed at all, and actually does not hurt that much either.  My results have gotten much better each time I do it.  Think about shaving.  The first time you did it, were you perfect at it?  Probably not.  Nor will it be with waxing.

5 - Do not wax right out of the shower.  Do it towards the end of the day, or the day after you shower.  Your skin should be lightly oily to help the wax not to stick to it.

6 - Do not wax if you need to dress that day, or the next, or even the next.  I tend to give my skin about 4-5 days to recover.  After you wax most likely your skin will have quite a few red spots covering every inch of it.  These spots will lesson within a few days.

So why do I do it?  Mainly because it helps me to be able to keep up with my shaving.  It greatly reduces the amount of hairs that are actively growing at any particular time.  This allows me to shave much more quickly and my skin is much less irritated by the shaving that I need to do.  Also, in spots, the hair appears to no longer be growing back much at all.

It is worth it.  It is painful, but it is worth it.

Good luck.  Oh and yeah, just like shaving, I did mess it up many a time and hurt myself pretty badly.  Sometimes unfortunately I bruised myself and left marks that took a couple of weeks to disappear.  But you can't get better if you don't try.  So give it a whirl, who knows, you just might like it!

Love Ya & Good Luck!

Outfit for Thursday 8/22/13

White Top - Guess

Blue Tank - Mossimo

Skirt - Guess

Shoes - Bare Traps

A while back I went shopping at a nearby outlet mall and I was determined to buy something, other than Guess.  I went into many, many stores, trying on all sorts of items.  Nothing piqued my interest though.  I find that the longer I go dressing as a girl, the more picky I am about the clothes I will buy.  Once upon a time, all it really took was for the clothes to be girls clothes to warrant a purchase.

Now, the clothes really need to do something for me.  If the clothes aren't helping me to look better in one way or another, then it is a pass.  I look for clothes, first and foremost, that fit well.  They need to be the right size; not too big and not too small.  They also need to have the right cut.  Even a simple t-shirt type of top can have a feminine cut to it, like the one I am wearing above.  It is just a simple cotton shirt, but with the addition of the ruching on the bottom, it really feminizes it.

Point being, I found nothing in other stores that had nicely feminine clothes.  I walked into the Guess store, trying to not find things to buy, as I have an overly Guess stocked wardrobe.  Of course, I found a few things to try on, and once I put them on, I had to have them.  I really just do not understand why other clothing manufacturers do not do what Guess does.  Almost all of their clothes have small little feminine touches as well as excellent feminizing cuts to them.  I ended up leaving the store with two shirts and a great pair of jeans that makes my butt look great!  Isn't that what a good pair of jeans is supposed to do?

Oh, the top above, made my bust look pretty small when I first tried it on.  But with the addition of the blue tank underneath it, which allowed the white top to be worn a little lower around the bust, it really helped to emphasize things.

Hope you all are doing well!  :)  Oh and yes, I do have the ring on.  I have taken it off to go to work, but most of the rest of the time my new little sparkly friend is where it should be.

Love ya!

I Can't Take It Off / My Wife Rocks!

Diamond & Sapphire Wedding Ring by Blue Nile

Which is currently residing on my finger!

2 days ago was Jules and mine 8th anniversary of being married as wife and wife.  I wrote about it in detail last year, if you happened to miss it go here.

This year, this past weekend Jules asked me to go with her out for a day of food, movies, shopping, and general fun.  I gladly accepted and we went out for the day.  We started off with an awesome pedicure, which was super relaxing.

Afterwards we went out to a Korean BBQ place for lunch.  While waiting for lunch to arrive Jules handed me the following card.

I started to tear up, as I don't think she could have said anything else that could have touched more.  For many years actually I have had the ring picked out and I waited.  I didn't want it as much as I wanted for her to want to get me a real woman's wedding ring.  Does that make any sense?

Hmm... maybe.

What I know is that today we went and picked up the ring.  It had been sent to us, but we missed the FedEx truck yesterday and had to wait til today.  My wife is so awesome that she suggested that after work on the way to the FedEx location that I take the time to get dressed.  Wow.  What a wife.  What a spouse.  What a friend.

We got the ring, I opened the package and was stunned.  I nervously slipped it on my finger as Jules drove us to dinner.  OMG.  It is stunning. Absolutely STUNNING.  Sorry for yelling, but it is awesome.  I have spent much time just staring at it, watching the stunning sparkles of the beautiful diamonds and deep rich sapphires.  I mean, diamonds!  Diamonds!

Okay, really diamonds are a girls best friend.

But really, no matter how gorgeous the ring is, the fact that Jules wanted to get it for me means so much more.

Wow.

Do I really have to ever take it off?

At least I can't ever take off what Jules has given to me.

Love you! :)

Outfit for 8-12-13

Sweater - Ann Taylor

Tank - Mossimo

Skirt - Guess

Flip Flops - What's What by Aerosoles

I really like this sweater.  Obviously, I love the color.  But more than that, in the pictures, to me at least, the color helps my arms look smaller.  Which is kind of funny, as it is so bright!  But, paired with the black tank, in this case, my eyes are drawn to the black color instead of the pink.  Not sure why that is, or if it appears that way to you, but to me it does.

Yesterday I wore this outfit out for shopping, food, and the movies.  I finally found myself in a Payless Shoe store as we were trying to waste some time before dinner.  And yes, if you do not already know, I can verify for you that they have women's shoes up to size 13!  How cool is that!  Well, at least for those of you with larger feet that is.  I do try and keep my eyes open for those of you that are in need!  I found a cute pair of heels.  It was really funny, as Jules picked out a cute pair of blue with white polka dots platform wedges and I thought they were super cute and I looked and they had the same shoe but in a pale pink.  Of course for only $10 I had to have them.  Have I ever shared with you all that Jules and I have the same size shoe?  We always say we are going to borrow the others shoes but I don't know if we ever have.  Funny!

Anyways, it was cool to find the same shoe in two different colors.  I can totally pull of the pale pink color because my skin has a darker tone to it, whereas with Jules, her skin is more pinkish than mine and while she loves the pale pinky color, it just sort of blends too much with her skin tone.  So for her the blue shoes looked great and really made for a nice pop of color.

If you can't tell, or don't already know this about me, I espouse contrasting colors.  I think with your clothes, colors that contrast more with your skin tone look great.  And I also think the same thing about eye shadows.  I am so jealous of Jules' pretty brown eyes as she can totally pull off all sorts of cool colored shadows, whereas with me they just do not look as good.  Colors make her pretty eyes pop so much more, but with me, earth tones really make my blue/green eyes look great.

Interesting stuff here people!  What do you think?  Do you like contrasting colors or do you prefer similar colors more so?  Am I alone in my beliefs?  Am I totally off base?  Should I go for a super bright blue eyeshadow?  Thoughts?

Okay, Love Ya!

:)